Knowledge Is Power

Hi Precious Pearls,

What are orgasms? When I was a young woman, I thought I knew. Great pleasure. Small earthquakes. But certainly nothing compared to men’s body-grabbing explosions that left them down for the count. Then in my late twenties, my husband bought me a vibrator. It was one of those plastic, battery-operated toys shaped like a lean rocket about the length of my hand. With no operating instructions, I tried it internally, but only obtained some feel-good sensations. I experimented by resting it at different locations, still no fireworks. Then when I placed it on my clitoris, within moments my world blew apart. Who knew I could have such over-the-top, powerful climaxes?

No one ever told me.

Amazingly, I was ready for more fireworks within minutes. When Charlotte in Sex and the City locked her bedroom door for hours of motorized play, I recognized her desire to remain plugged-in forever, clinging to a bit of heaven on earth.

I kept this precious toy in my nightstand for about two years until I attended one of those in-home sex parties. Here I discovered the Hitachi Magic Wand—a hefty looking instrument originally created for muscle aches. Smart, creative women appropriated it for their use, making it the vibrator of choice. I bought it and my life has never been the same. A powerful toy. Orgasms that went on and on. Over and over again. How did I ever live without it?

While I’ve tried other toys, for me, the wand is my chosen vibrator. I now have a collection with different sizes and shapes. That style works with the way my body is designed. I’m now on my third Magic Wand. My two major issues with it: it’s big, bulky, and heavy to travel with; and it won’t work with non-US electrical currents. Think about the first episode of Emily In Paris. Here she plugs her electric vibrator into a socket—and it explodes, short-circuiting the electricity for the entire building. Mine had a similar sparks-flying death when in London, but at least the hotel remained illuminated. I spent the rest of my trip without power-driven service.

I envy the younger generation reading this blog because in my earlier years, people rarely discussed women’s sexuality and anatomy. In fact, many of today’s medical schools’ textbooks still fall short of providing adequate information to future doctors about female passion. The books provide in-depth anatomical pictures of the penis, but barely mention the clitoris. (“The sole function of the clitoris is female orgasm. Is that why its ignored by medical science?” The Guardian, October 31, 2020.) As recent as 1985, the medical textbook Last’s Anatomy omitted the clitoris when discussing female sexual organs and described aspects of women’s genitals as “poorly developed…and a failure of male genital formation…. While descriptions of the penis went on for pages.” (“Half the World Has a Clitoris. Why Don’t Doctors Study It?” New York Times, October 17, 2022.)

Hopefully, this new crop of medical students will graduate with a comprehensive understanding of female anatomy. Unfortunately, we have no control over societies who ceremonially remove the clitoris to reduce a woman’s sex drive. According to The World Health Organization (WHO), about 200 million women and girls alive today have been given clitoridectomies. Untold millions of girls have suffered horrible deaths from female castration.

We, who still have our clitorises, live a blessed life with the potential for soul-shaking joys…which we must never take for granted.

To appreciate the mightiness of the tiny clitoris, you may want to watch the TEDx Talk linked in the third email I sent when you signed up for my website. Or, to make it easier for you, here it is: “Cliteracy” with Sophia Wallace. It’s longer than a TikTok video, but well worth your time. Knowledge is power.

My Love,

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